Three Tip Tuesday – Life Without The Scale Part Two


I really shouldn’t have labeled this post as a Part Two. I mean, sequels are not usually as good as the original.

Except maybe Back To The Future, Part Two. I really liked that movie. But was it better than the first? Not so sure.

This post is more of a follow-up, more of my attempt to get in a few more thoughts that I have on the topic of stepping away from the scale.

I am about to contradict myself but we cannot continue this discussion of stepping away from the scale without me pointing something out:

There are times in your life when knowing what you weigh is kind of important.

Only two years after giving up the scale, I was pregnant with my son. Throughout those 9 months, I was required to step on that scale every few weeks (if not more) at each and every doctor’s appointment.

I went on the scale backwards each time, letting the fluctuating number merely be a well-kept secret between my doctor and my file.

Sounds like a great little plan, yes?

The morning that my water broke I rushed on over to the hospital and arrived ahead of my doctor. And my file.

The nurse needed to know my exact weight in order to administer the correct dosage for the epidural.

In between contractions I explained why I did not know my weight. She did not understand, relate or attempt to sympathize.

She yelled at me.

If you are pregnant or not, you may very well indeed need to know or at least have a rough idea of what you weigh and I don’t want to interfere with that.

But, having a rough idea of what you weigh and stepping on that scale every single day are two totally different things.

If you already have an idea of what you weigh and want to stop living your life according to what the scale says at 6:00 am after you empty your bladder and before the first sip of coffee, let’s talk about how you can keep yourself in check.


Check in with your clothes:

It is no secret that I live in leggings.

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And sunglasses but that’s only because they are prescription.

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In order to live in elastic waist pants, I just make sure to “check in” with my jeans periodically to ensure that they still fit the way that I want them to.

I am famous for putting the jeans on, walking around the house and then taking them off in favor of my leggings before leaving the house.

During the winter months, I also “check in” with my summer wardrobe, as in slipping on the jean shorts and the occasional swimsuit. Just to make sure all is still kosher.

 If something feels as though it fits “different”- EVALUATE.

If your jeans are loose, is this a good thing? Did you need them to be loose? Were you looking to go down a size?

If your jeans are snug, tight or just feel different, have you changed your eating habits or workout routine? Can you pinpoint what you have done differently?

Could it simply be where you are in your menstrual cycle? I know that for me, day 5, when everyone else is feeling bloat-free, I am at my most feeling-like-a-sausage encased in my own skin. Not the best day to check in with the jeans.

If you can find where you have overindulged, recall skipping more than a few routine workouts or know it’s been a while since you had your veggies, make the appropriate adjustments.

Sometimes though,  maybe our shorts from last season shouldn’t fit. Sometimes there isn’t a dietary change to make.

Sometimes we are eating more or storing more “weight” around certain parts of our bodies because nature wants us to.

And, sometimes, our physical activity changes the shape of our body and requires more energy from food. This isn’t a bad thing.

What is a bad thing is if your clothes feel tighter and you have been eating less. Did you know that by eating less you can actually slow your metabolism thereby causing your body to store calories rather than burn them? Oh boy, this is totally a topic that deserves a post unto itself.

Regardless of how your skinny jeans are looking and feeling, please remember to love yourself anyway.

I know this sounds so cliché but it is true. You must learn to love yourself. At any size.

It is great to be loved and desired by someone else, to be told you are lookin’ fine in your jeans, that you are beautiful and pretty and the greatest thing since sliced bread.


You need to know this and believe this about yourself for yourself.

If you cannot love yourself as you currently are, fitting into your jeans or having someone else loving you and appreciating you seems rather meaningless.

Remember when I said the American Dream isn’t all it’s cracked up to be? I think that part of this so-called American Dream is this belief that if you could only be 5 pounds less, if only you could wear a size 2, you will be happy forever.

Just not the case.

As we all know, I am now divorced.

I tried very hard to save that marriage and every book I read at the time instructed me to dye my hair and consider losing weight to attract my husband back.

But I was already blonde enough and thin enough.

And if you are sitting there wondering what or who defines “enough”….I do.

What a disaster it could have been had I blamed my appearance, had I not loved myself enough to know that my pants size was not the cause for the demise of my marriage.

I don’t often touch on the details of my divorce as they really don’t apply here.

What does apply here is having some self-esteem, knowing you are enough even on those days when your jeans feel a tad snug.

And should there ever come a day when someone else fails to see that you are the greatest thing since sliced bread? Well then, let’s just have pity on their soul….they are probably on some fad diet where bread is taboo.

No one can live happily ever after without carbs.



Have you ever encountered a time when you needed to know your exact weight and didn’t know it?

Ever go on the scale backwards?

What do you wear more often – leggings or pants with a button?

Ever gain weight because you ate too little?









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  1. says

    If I could live in leggings for the rest of my life I would!! I have a rough estimate of what I weigh but definitely don’t know the exact number. My jeans still fit (when I wear them) so that’s all that matters. Though if they did stop fitting I wouldn’t mind a shopping trip…or exclusive legging wearing lol

  2. says

    I love this post! I do the same darn thing. I put on jeans for all of 5 minutes before going “eff this” and running back to my yoga pants and leggings. I’ll be honest. I have no freaking clue what a weigh. The last time I weighed myself was on Purim, so late last February. I wasn’t happy with the number, and I vowed not to step on again. Now, I’m happy with the way I look. I eat healthy 99% of the time. I’m active. And so the number means little to me.

    And to be quite frank, the next time I go into the doctor, I probably will look away as I step on the scale and I will probably request that the doctor/nurse not tell me the number. Personal preference, but I’m happier that way.

  3. says

    I DO NOT WEIGH MYSELF. If I go to the doctor, I get on the scale backwards and make sure not to look at what the nurse is writing. A number does not define me as a person. My personality does. I am going to stand by that. I mean, it totally helps that I am 100% confident in my own skin and actually like what I see in the mirror! However, whenever I feel a little off, I just tweak something here or there and BOOM, I am back to normal! 😀

    PS: you have such a cute body!

  4. says

    No one can live happily ever after without carbs <– very much THIS. I'm an absolutely nightmare to be around if I don't have enough carbs in me. Moody, tired, craving-y. It's not pretty. Also, YES to gaining weight when eating less. It seems like one of the most counter-intuitive things in the world, but I've definitely been there — you should do a post on that 😀

    As for the scale, I spent the majority of my early recovery stepping on it backwards because I couldn't handle the number… which was fine, but I hated that I was so afraid of something that was supposed to be so meaningless. I finally got over it, and while I don't weigh myself on a regular basis and prefer to go by how my clothes fit, it's nice not to let that number have any power over me.

    • says

      Totally hear you on the being afraid of something so meaningless. If I ever have another baby, I will have zero issue now looking at the scale at each doctor’s visit, very different from 10 years ago…I am not afraid of seeing the number now. At all. In fact, looking back, I can’t even relate to what I was so fearful of back then. Amazing when you think about it.

  5. says

    Oh, I so like your post! I was dependent on weighing some years, I even had electronic scales (it seems, they and now remained somewhere in a case). And each time when I saw increase weighing at least on 100 grams… Well, it was the big trouble. Hurrah – hurrah that I almost don’t face this problem now though I and am not able to determine the weight by jeans 😀 It is too much factors to pay attention 😉 Though if they absolutely cease to stretch or will fall down finally, I nevertheless will notice 😀 Therefore I am simply weighed on regular medical examinations at university 2 times a year. It seems, there is quite enough?

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