You would think that by now, almost at the age of 12, it would be a little easier to keep my son quiet and entertained during Rosh Hashanah services at temple yesterday BUT NO. It’s the same as when he was three, if not worse.
So much for taking a nice picture of him dressed up like everyone else did of their children according to facebook.
It took all of my strength not to holler at him (or laugh at him) for his shenanigans and constant asking if we can leave yet.
If you can even believe it, my kid commended me for my patience and tolerance level as he tapped my arm and tried everything he could to annoy me.
Perhaps all of my reading of the book, Jewish Spiritual Parenting by Rabbi Paul Kipnes and Michelle November has been helping me deal lately.
Being a parent is not easy.
As much as I assumed this before my son was born, assuming and actually knowing first hand once you have children that belong to you and never leave is a totally different life lesson.
And, I hate to break it to you new moms, it only gets harder as they get older.
No one told me this. Seriously. I figured that once my son left the infant stage, toddler stage and preschool age, once he was able to walk and talk and be left in a room unsupervised without the fear of him choking or hurting himself, once he was able to play on his own, that my parenting problems would go away and life would go back to normal, as in simpler, but boy was I naive, out and touch and, well, wrong.
Little kids, little problems, big kids, bigger problems.
Anyway, back to my new book. I received a copy of Jewish Spiritual Parenting to review or maybe, just maybe, the real reason I received this helpful book is because the powers that be from above felt that I could use some assistance in raising my tweenager.
An easy read loaded with valuable, relatable and applicable information, I do realize that not all of my readers are Jewish nor do all of my readers have children.
I think the best part of having this book is having access to the general life lessons, things we can all apply and think about in our daily lives no matter how we fill out the census report.
I chose two sections for today that I find beneficial for us all to remember.
1) Our bodies are worthy of appreciation and care:
The focus on creating a positive body image, the importance of self-care and viewing both rest and exercise as a gift to ourselves for our emotional and spiritual well-being stood out to me immediately.
Most important to note is how we reflect this to our children. Kids are impressionable – they absorb everything they see and hear which is something I never forget.
I do not own a scale and often explain why to my son so that he knows we are not defined by a number and the words “fat” and “ugly” have never been uttered from my mouth. Not about myself, certainly never about my handsome boy nor about others.
Social media is just another influence in already difficult world which views thin as perfect when the reality is, we need to learn that each of us are special and beautiful just the way we are.
2) Learn to enjoy a day of rest:
While Jewish people are known to observe Shabbat, a day of rest, it’s actually a practice we all should take part in to give our minds and bodies a break at some point during the week.
It doesn’t even have to be a full day, sometimes all we need is a little bit of down time, doing something positive that we enjoy to rejuvenate our spirits.
I love the examples given in this book!
The power of walking, even if only for a few minutes, should not be overlooked nor should savoring a scoop of ice cream as a form of relaxation 🙂
This picture is now 10 years old but serves as a reminder that sometimes afternoon ice cream cones can be really fun even if you have to share them.
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